Length of dating before marriage
Here, nine couples reveal how long they waited and why.Five months: "We were in love and wanted to start the rest of our lives together.As long as you believe that you know the other person well, and that you have been honest and open with them allowing them to know what you are really like then you should be ready for marriage.As you are making a decision on a relationship that should last a lifetime it is better to be safe than sorry and make sure that you have properly considered the consequences of it not working out.We are both in our 30s, and I think once you reach a certain age, you know what you want and you know what you need and when you find it, you hold on tight." Nine months: "I remember thinking at three months that I would totally marry him right now.But then we got to know each other even more, we got into some necessary arguments, and our love grew even stronger.
This was both of our second marriages, so we knew what we wanted and did not want in a partner, no need to wait years.
Even well into your thirties—when people are more self-aware than they were in their twenties and know what they want—and into your forties—when having kids starts to feel a bit more urgent—you can still afford to wait six months.
I asked my boyfriend to give me the guy's perspective on this, and he said he thinks six months should be the standard minimum too.
I get asked a lot of relationship-themed questions given where I work, and one of them is from women with boyfriends who want to know how long to wait for the ring.
These aren’t women who have been dating for two months, but rather women who are in long-term relationships.